what to do when your goals conflict

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA"Having it all" ... that elusive concept of balance in work, life, romance, fitness etc.  When you want a lean body, fitness takes over.  When you want financial success, work wins out.  When your relationship is most important, waistlines tend to grow and work may play second fiddle. This past summer, I started working with Celeste Walker of For Living Conciously to develop a deeper sense of self awareness and how I reacted to and interacted with the world and the people around me.

(Quick sidebar to tell you: this woman is amazing.  My life has radically changed thanks in large part to her loving and gentle reminders to be loving and gentle.)

Something I learned quickly - was that there are multiple people bonking around in my head.  There's a task master.  A yogi.  A mother and caregiver. An athlete.  A college co-ed who just wants to sleep. and on and on.  The question is: How do you make sure that your "parts" equal a whole?

Tiny Buddha (which I read religiously) hit the nail on the head.  A concept used in neurolinguistic programming, "parts integration" simply means recognizing that all those people in your head have good intentions for you, and that - while they conflict sometimes - they're usually looking out for your best interest.  (The author calls them his " internal family" ... and I love that.) The trick is recognizing that bigger interest.

Whether you have time to read the article or not (and I highly suggest you do!) ... know that when incredibly strong emotions or drives to achieve a certain goal pop up and start to sabotage your hapiness, it's usually one part commandeering the rest.  But the biggest and best interest of most of those parts is success and happiness for YOU.  The whole.

What are your parts?  Who do you most frequently listen to?